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A |     对这句话的刻板印象早就该改改了     很多人提起这句话，第一反应就是传统孝道对年轻人的束缚，觉得它是在要求我们守在父母身边，放弃出去闯的机会。    真的是这样吗？我们都只记住了前半句，忘了后半句“游必有方”。    The Pan American Games open Friday in Chile's capital with more than 100 spots available for next year's Paris Olympics and the usual contest to see who will finish second behind the United States in the medals chart.More than 6,800 athletes from 41 countries and territories will compete in Santiago over 17 days. Competitors in 20 sports, including gymnastics, boxing and swimming, will be looking to directly qualify for the Olympics. Other sports will offer spots based on quotas, ranking points or minimum qualification standards.The Pan American Games, the largest multi-sport event in the Americas, are held every four years and precede the Olympics by a year. Santiago, where the streets have been rocked by protests in recent years, will debut as host. About 17,000 volunteers and 3,000 security officers will work at the event.If injuries don't get in the way, the U.S. team in Chile will include 93 Olympians and 32 Olympic medalists in a roster of 631 athletes. Of those, 318 are women and 313 are men. They will compete in 43 of the 46 sports.Brazil, Mexico and Canada are expected to fight for second place in the medals table. The three are bringing some of their biggest stars to the competition, including Brazilian gymnast Rebeca Andrade, Mexican diver Osmar Olvera and Canadian swimmer Maggie Mac Neil.American athletes will seek Olympic qualification in nine sports: breaking, boxing, gymnastics (rhythmic, trampoline), sport climbing, field hockey (men’s and women’s), modern pentathlon, artistic swimming, handball and water polo (men’s and women’s).Athletes in archery, diving, equestrian jumping, table tennis, sailing and shooting can secure quotas that will send them to Paris next year. Those competing in badminton, 3x3 basketball, cycling, taekwondo and triathlon can get ranking points that allow them to qualify. Track and field athletes and swimmers can also get minimum qualification standards for U.S. Olympic team trials.The U.S. team at the Pan American Games has 13 Olympic champions, including nine who won gold in Tokyo — six members of the women's water polo team, fencer Lee Kiefer, shooter Vincent Hancock and swimmer Brooks Curry.The other four won their Olympic titles prior to 2021, including Helen Maroulis and Kyle Snyder in wrestling, and Laura Kraut and McClain Ward in equestrian.Four years ago, the United States won 293 medals in Lima, Peru — 122 gold, 87 silver and 84 bronze. Brazil came in a distant second with 54 gold, 45 silver and 70 bronze. Mexico finished in third with 37 gold, 39 silver and 62 bronze, edging Canada with 35 gold, 65 silver and 52 bronze.As the Olympics did in Japan, the Pan American Games are seeking to reach a younger audience with new sports. Breaking, sport climbing and skateboarding will make their debuts at the event. The latter two have already had a first Olympic competition in Tokyo, while breaking will debut next year in Paris.The opening ceremony of the Pan American Games will take place on Friday at the 47,000-seat Estadio Nacional, around which six new venues for 30 sports were built with an investment of $507 million.Inaugurated in 1938, the Estadio Nacional held its first major sporting event in 1962 when Brazil beat Czechoslovakia 3-1 to win the World Cup title in soccer.Eleven years later, the stadium became a place of horror with extrajudicial killings and torture after the coup d’etat that ousted President Salvador Allende and led him to kill himself in 1973.“People will be surprised by how beautiful this National Stadium Park turned out,” Neven Ilic, the president of organizer Panam Sports, said last week. “All Chileans should feel proud of the level of the facilities and because they will be hosting a celebration never seen before in this country.”The Chilean government says the park that includes the stadium will be a place for the public to practice sports, play and walk as part of the legacy of the Pan Am Games. Authorities also promise to hand over the apartments in the athletes village to families after the event as permanent housing.___AP sports: https://apnews.com/sports。这里的“方”从来不是刻板的方向，而是让父母安心的底气啊。         现在的游，早就不是过去的远游了     放在古代，出一趟远门可能大半年都回不来，音信全无都是常事。父母在家牵肠挂肚，连孩子是死是活都不知道，自然是放心不下。    现在呢？早上从广州出发，晚上就能到北京落地。想父母了随时随地能弹个视频通话，连你今天吃了什么火锅都能给父母拍个照片看看。    现在的远游，早就不会再让父母陷入长久的等待和不安了。    我们这代人，多少人是从小县城考出来，留在大城市工作，别说远游，有些人干脆就在工作的城市安了家。要是真按老刻板印象说，那这些人都不算孝顺吗？当然不是。    真正让父母难过的从来不是你走得远，而是你走了之后，连句准信都不给，连个让他们安心的着落都没有。你说走就走，一年半载不联系，父母在家天天对着空房子掉眼泪，这才是真的不孝。    “游必有方”的新内涵，其实是让我们学会让父母安心     方是什么？放在今天，它不是你必须给父母留一个固定的地址那么简单。

B |     你每个星期固定给父母打个电话，说说你最近的生活，哪怕只是吐槽一下公司的盒饭不好吃，他们都能开心好久。你换工作换住处，第一时间告诉他们新的联系方式，不让他们瞎担心。你在外面攒了积蓄，给自己买了医保社保，让他们知道你就算遇到事也能扛得住。         这些就是现在的“游必有方”啊。    我身边有个朋友，在北京工作了五年，父母一直在老家。她每天不管多晚，都会给妈妈发一条晚安，哪怕只是一个表情。逢年过节一定会回家，实在回不去，也会提前把给父母买的礼物寄回去，还约好邻居家的姐姐多帮着照应。    她父母从来不会天天催她回老家结婚，反而逢人就说我女儿在北京干得好，我们很放心。你看，这不就是对这句话最好的诠释吗？     哪怕你走得再远，你心里装着父母，不让他们悬着一颗心，这就够了。    真正的孝道，从来不是绑着你留在父母身边     现在很多人批判这句话，说它耽误年轻人发展，其实错怪了老祖宗的智慧。    孔子从来没说过不让年轻人出门闯荡，他自己带着弟子周游列国，不也是远游吗？他想说的从来不是“你必须留在父母身边”，而是“你要是出门，一定要想着让父母安心”。         现在很多人的矛盾，从来不是远游不对，而是只想着自己远游，忘了身后的父母。    有些人出去打拼，几年都不回一次家，电话也不打几个，父母问起近况就嫌烦，说他们不懂自己的理想。

C | 可你的理想再大，也不该让生你养你的人，天天对着月亮盼你回信啊。    也有些人，明明自己想去外面闯，就因为这句话，硬生生留在小地方，天天抱怨自己被家庭耽误了，对着父母甩脸子。这也不是孝道，这是扭曲了这句话本来的意思。

D |     父母在，也能远游，只要你带着心安回家     现在交通这么方便，通讯这么发达，距离早就不是什么问题了。    你在大城市打拼，每年抽两次假期带父母出去旅游，或者接父母过来住一段时间，让他们看看你生活的地方，知道你过得好不好，比你天天守在家里跟他们吵架强多了。

E |     你哪怕一个月回一次家，每次回去都开开心心陪他们吃顿饭，聊聊天，比你天天住在一起，却对着手机不理他们强多了。

F |          这句话放到今天，从来不是束缚年轻人的枷锁，而是提醒我们的一句箴言。不管我们走得有多远，飞的有多高，都别忘了身后还有牵挂我们的人。    别让你的远游，变成父母望眼欲穿的等待。别把你的任性，当成追求自由的借口。    父母在，人生尚有来处。只要你让父母知道你的归处，远游又有什么关系呢？     这份刻在骨子里的牵挂，才是这句话留到今天，最珍贵的新内涵。

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